Recognizing that you need help is an essential step in addiction recovery. That said, not everyone knows how to find that support.
Many people entering Alcoholics Anonymous quickly hear the phrase “I need a sponsor,” but may not fully understand what it means.
In this article, we explain all you need to know about addiction recovery sponsorship. Read on to learn everything from the roles of a sponsor to why having a sponsor matters.
What Is a Sponsor?
A sponsor is a senior member of an Alcoholics Anonymous or Narcotics Anonymous group. They voluntarily mentor and guide those new to the recovery process.
Sponsors are confidants who also promote accountability. They can answer questions about the 12-step program and teach you anything you need to know about AA or NA membership.
Sponsors have their own addiction and recovery experiences. To be a sponsor, you must first attend at least one year of recovery meetings yourself.
In short, sponsors know what addiction recovery is like. Because of this, they offer practical advice and emotional support during the most difficult moments.
The Role of a Sponsor
Sponsors have several important roles in an AA or NA group.
- Program Teacher: Sponsors teach you everything you need to know about recovery meetings – from etiquette to expectations. They explain all the steps and share how each step can help you overcome substance use.
- Recovery Support: Sponsors encourage you to attend AA or NA meetings by accompanying you. You may even call your sponsor for emotional support outside of the AA meetings.
- Role Model: Sponsors demonstrate how the 12-step program applies to everyday life. They’re role models that promote long-term sobriety.
- Confidant: Although sponsors aren’t trained therapists, they provide a safe judgment-free space for the sponsee. You can share your personal struggles with your sponsor.
The Advantage of a Good Sponsor
Studies show that having the right sponsor can help the sponsee on their recovery journey. Individuals with a sponsor have a 33% to 55% higher chance of staying substance-free.
Sponsorship leads to better outcomes in both drug rehab and 12-step programs. Sponsors can increase your community engagement and support your long-term recovery.
How to Find a Sponsor
Finding a new sponsor can feel intimidating, especially when you recently joined the AA or NA group. Don’t be afraid. The good news is that most members understand the importance of helping newcomers.
Here’s how you can find a sponsor in your AA or NA group.
- Attend Regular Meetings: Be sure to attend meetings regularly and listen to others’ stories. Doing this can help you identify which members are the best approach.
- Talk to Potential Sponsors: Approach your prospect and ask them directly if they are willing to sponsor you before or after a meeting. Don’t take it to heart if they reject, as they could have personal reasons.
- Let the Group Know: Another way to find a sponsor is to let the whole group know you’re looking for a sponsor. You can do this during the meeting.
- Approach the Leader: Meeting leaders are always willing to help, and you can talk to them before the meeting starts. They can then ask people interested in sponsoring you to raise their hands.
Tips on Choosing a Sponsor
The sponsor and sponsee relationship is always built on trust. Because of this, choosing the right sponsor can make a meaningful difference in a person’s recovery.
Here are some tips to help you choose the right sponsor.
- Look at Their Experience: Ideally, you want a sponsor who has maintained years of sobriety. They should provide insights and guide you through the whole recovery program.
- Prioritize Communication: Your sponsor should communicate with you and give you practical advice. You must be comfortable with them so you can talk about your struggles.
- Check Their Values: Select a sponsor with similar values and recovery goals. This can reinforce healthier behaviors for the sponsee.
- Consider the Gender: We recommend having a sponsor of the same gender to prevent romantic feelings from developing. Remember, your sponsor is a mentor who will hold you accountable for your actions.
- Ask About Availability: Not everyone has the time to become a sponsor. You should discuss early on whether your prospect is available for frequent check-ins and regular meetings.
Lastly, remember that there’s no such thing as a perfect sponsor, and sponsorship relationships are temporary. The most important thing is to choose someone who can improve your personal growth.
Sponsorship Do’s and Don’ts
Sponsorship works best when the sponsor and sponsee understand their roles. These do’s and don’ts can help you build a respectful connection.
Do’s
- Be Open: Do be honest with your sponsor. Let them know about your struggles and reach out if you’re feeling triggered or overwhelmed.
- Respect Their Time: Tell your sponsor in advance if you can’t make it to a particular meeting. Talk about your schedule and only call them when it’s necessary.
- Stay Committed: Attend meetings with your sponsor consistently. Listen to their advice and learn from their example.
- Keep Things Professional: Building close friendships and romantic relationships with your sponsor can get in the way of your recovery. You should always keep things professional.
Don’ts
- Don’t Cross Boundaries: Your sponsor isn’t a therapist. You can rely on them for occasional support, but they can’t replace professional help.
- Don’t Rely on Them Alone: Your sponsor shouldn’t be your one and only support system. You should remain in contact with friends, family, and therapists to support your recovery journey.
- Don’t Overshare: Don’t share too much of your personal information with your sponsor. Your discussions should only be about substance use and addiction recovery.
- Don’t Keep Unhealthy Relationships: If your sponsor is crossing your boundaries, it’s ok to end the relationship. Sponsorships are temporary, and you can always find a new sponsor.
Can I Become a Sponsor?
Yes! Most people in AA and NA groups can become sponsors once they have enough experience. In fact, becoming a sponsor also has its advantages.
Research shows that sponsors develop increased self-awareness and social skills. You can learn more about yourself and improve your psychological wellness by helping others.
Sponsorship can be a meaningful activity that gives back to the recovery community.
However, don’t rush into this role if you haven’t had a sponsor yourself. Only become a sponsor if you’re ready to take on extra responsibility.
How We Can Help
Recreate Behavioral Health Network is a group of rehab centers that can help you achieve long-term sobriety. Using our alumni program, we connect you with a community of like-minded individuals should you ever need a sponsor.
We provide support and guidance through in-person and virtual meetings. Through RBHN, you receive the highest standard of health care as you undergo substance abuse treatment.
Recreate Behavioral Health Network’s Treatment Programs
Recovering from drug and alcohol addiction takes time and commitment. RBHN simplifies the recovery journey through these steps.
1. Assessment
Our support begins during the admissions process. Here, we carefully assess your background and the extent of your drug addiction or alcohol use. We then tailor a program to meet your needs.
There’s no need to worry about treatment costs. We’ll check your health insurance and see which services are covered.
2. Detox
Detox is the critical first step towards recovery.
During detox, we remove all foreign substances from your body. It can be a difficult process, and you may encounter withdrawal symptoms. Because of this, it’s important to have guidance from medical professionals.
RBHN ensures your safety during detox through careful monitoring and medication.
3. Addiction Treatment
At RBHN, you can choose from several addiction treatment options based on your lifestyle.
We offer an outpatient treatment program for those who need flexibility. Through this program, you can continue working and attending school as you undergo rehabilitation.
Additionally, we offer inpatient treatment for those who need extensive care. This treatment program is best for those with serious addictions.
4. Therapy
RBHN addresses the root cause of substance abuse disorder through evidence-based therapy. Our approach helps individuals identify mental health conditions that may be affecting recovery.
Trauma, anxiety, and stress are all factors that can worsen addiction. Therapy aims to improve your mental health and allow you to build a better life.
5. Aftercare
Aftercare programs provide ongoing support for those who have graduated from treatment. They include relapse prevention, sober living, and 12-step programs.
Aftercare reinforces the skills you learned in therapy. Plus, it keeps you from feeling isolated to help you maintain sobriety for years to come.
RBHN supports you by connecting you with a sponsor and an active alumni community!
Conclusion
Sponsorship is an essential part of recovery. It can help you connect with your AA or NA group and improve your sense of accountability.
However, choosing the right sponsor is a must. You’ll want someone who provides support and encouragement.
With proper boundaries and mutual respect, sponsorship allows you to commit to sobriety.
So, if you or a loved one is in need of a sponsor, don’t hesitate to dial our phone number. Recreate Behavioral Health Network is here to guide you through your recovery journey!
